be vague
some people can really be mean with the words they say.

i went through my old cherished mails, and came across this:
'if you can't be kind with a person, then at least be vague'

That's what i'm trying to learn now so that someday i won't make the mistake of making a person feel the way that i'm feeling now towards someone who has been unkind to me and was so clear about it.